When I first put Giuliana into daycare, I was terrified. I would literally shake the minute I had to put her in the car and take her there.
It wasn’t because the people were bad and I didn’t trust them, it was because I was afraid of what I was going to miss.
What if something happened and I wasn’t there to protect her or maybe she would thrive there so much without me that she wouldn’t need my help.
I know it sounds silly, but that’s the struggle that some parents feel if they have to place their child in the hands of another caregiver.
They will hold their hand and not mine.
But here is the amazingly awesome thing I didn’t think about- these people that I have trusted with my most precious gift in life, are actually a gift to me, and to my daughter.
Yes, they’re a gift, one that continues to keep giving.
These ladies don’t treat this “task” that I have given them to watch my daughter as a job, they actually devote their time to help make her into the little girl she is becoming.
They give her guidance. Teach her to read. Give her basic skills like how washing your hands is so important before you eat. They teach her manners and all the reasons why we do the things we do. They even helped potty train her- a blessing for us that we didn’t count on.
Yes, you are probably saying to yourself- I can teach her those things, right? And you would be correct.
But here is the difference between them and myself- sometimes they just do it better. And I am completely OK with that.
Some moms wouldn’t be. They wouldn’t be alright with another person doing it better than them.
But here’s what I want you to think about.
1. They will give you the break you need to be a better parent.
Let’s face it. We all need one. When you are with your child or children day in and day out, another person helping hand should be graciously accepted.
2. The pros outweigh the cons in most daycare centers.
I hit the jackpot with my daughters daycare- and I will scream about them and praise them from the rooftops. I hope that yours is just as clean, respectful, and kind to your children as mine.
Make sure to look for a place with a smaller group of children, one that has a built-in camera to check in on the little ones throughout the day, and most importantly, kind and caring teachers.
Yes, you will probably have more sickness than usual with sending your child to daycare, BUT, guess what folks, when they hit school age, it’s going to happen as well.
3. The interaction they get at this age is priceless.
We put our daughter in daycare at 16 months. Up until about 22 months, I was scared she still wasn’t talking as much as the doctors said she should have been, and I was getting a little nervous about her not interacting more with kids at daycare.
But all my fears were quickly squashed.
I know that placing her there helps her speech, because she doesn’t stop talking. Seriously, non-stop.
Also, she is open to new things and loves being around people, and I attribute that all to being with her peers at an early age.
We don’t have a lot of kids around her age in our life, so for us, this was a win-win to be exposed to so much interaction.
4. Lastly, it’s OK if they can do something you can’t.
Yes, repeat, we can’t do it all.
If another person has the answers that I don’t know in this journey of childhood raising I openly listen to the advice. I might agree, I might not. But one thing I know, is that I don’t know it all.
People say it takes a village, and they are right.
If these ladies can help assist us in the hell that potty training can become, by all means please do.
If they can get your kids to veggies, who the heck I am to complain!
These are the things I hope help you decide if choosing a daycare is right for you or not. Or just to remind those that do have their children in daycare, that it’s OK, and your child is hopefully learning life lessons that will help you as well, in the long run.
Thank you again to all those helping us raise our children, you are the gift from above that we all need.
Author: Nicole Mildren
Nicole Mildren is the author of Champagne To Crayons, first time mom, and celebrates motherhood in the best way she knows how; by remembering she is just not a mom. Owning her own business, and Marketing Director of the Pittsburgh MomCon helps her stay sane in the world of motherhood.