Remember back on the day you found out you were pregnant?
Scared, overwhelmed, happy and freaked all at the same time are the types of emotions that happened to me.
I was getting advice from every possible person. Other moms, non-moms, your mom, and of course the random stranger in the Target isle.
But out of all of this random information overload, you start to realize the mom you want to be. You take stock in all the advice given, and filter it into the mother you are becoming.
Then, the joyous day finally happens after a long nine months, you become a mother. You hold your little one close and pray you know what the heck you are doing.
This my dear friends, is the time when you find your tribe. Your Mom Tribe.
Your mom tribe is a group of moms who support you and have your back in this crazy beautiful journey of motherhood.
We all need one.
We all to find a community that you can be authentic in, and not be afraid of being judged.
I hate to say it, but so many mothers judge. They want to criticize you for the things you believe are best for your family and children.
I was extremely blessed to have found my tribe pretty early into my mommy days.
Friends from different chapters of my life all came to me, supported me, and most importantly, never told me “how to be a mom.”
They built me up on the days I thought I was going to break and celebrated with me when I made it through.
People often ask me how I built my tribe.
I tell them I didn’t build it. It was already there. I just had to find it.
There are so many moms in this world that just need to have that connection, the support and love from others just like them.
Finding it these days is sometimes easier than you think.
Knowing yourself, and the mom you want to be is the first step in successfully finding and building your tribe.
After you know that, you can start seeking out where to find those like-minded women.
Here are a few tips that can help you find the mom tribe you are looking for.
1. Join a Moms Group: Online and Offline
Find a Facebook Group that you can join that have like-minded ways of mothering as you. I am in one that really covers it all, and supports you in all ways, it’s called Help a Mom Out. Online is fun, but even better is to join a group that meets offline at a playground, coffee shop, or even at someone’s home. When you meet in person, it really helps build that bond even more. They really do become your friends.
2. Attend a Conference for Moms
There are tons of conferences across the country that bring moms together to help build their community and introduce them to new products as well! I am the Co-Founder of one here in Pittsburgh call The Mom Con. These conferences are built to have you connect with other moms in your city, or even across the country. You can find inspirational speakers that give you a little extra boost to get through your journey, and know you are not the only one going though it.
3. Start a Blog
This blog was the best thing I did when I had my daughter. I not grew as a person and a writer, but I found it therapeutic. I could write what I wanted, share my journey with other moms out there, at the same time, build a story book for my daughter. She can look back and see the things she did. Her life is not necessarily mine to share, but it is to be celebrated. And that is what I do. I celebrate her life through pictures, posts, and funny stories. There are so many bloggers out there that I adore and follow. What I found was best for me, was to connect with other bloggers in my city. Bloggers like Kelly from Pgh Momtourage, Nadine from Pittsburgh Mommy Blog, Becky from Lil Burghers, and Ashley from Momma on Mission helped me find ways in Pittsburgh to enjoy motherhood and do things with them as a group.
4. Create Playgroups
Playgroups not only help you get out of the house in those early days, but also help your child get the social interaction they need. There is a new app called MomCo. If you haven’t heard of it, you can download if for free on your iPhone or Android. This fun and interactive app, helps you find local moms in your area, create playgroups with them, and even gives you a chance to start forums asking questions that other moms can help you with.
5. Get Involved
There are so many ways to get involved in your child’s life, and also build up your tribe at the same time. Join your child’s PTA, volunteer at school or daycare functions, or at church. I know that finding other moms that are in the same stage as I am always helps. You can chat about school plays, field trips, and even find out other ways those moms might be struggling as well. If your kids are them same age, most likely you are going through the same thing.
I know that all of this seems like common sense, but when you are first time mom, you don’t know where to turn sometimes.
All this being said, we love our families, and our kids, but we all need a little mom time with women who appreciate all that we are doing every single day.
Raising a tiny human is hard.
That is why you need to have those people to ground you, give you strength, and support the choices you make.
Find your mom tribe, and I can promise you, you will be so happy you did.
CHEERS AND LOVE,
Author: Nicole Mildren
Nicole Mildren is the author of Champagne To Crayons, first time mom, and celebrates motherhood in the best way she knows how; by remembering she is just not a mom. Owning her own business, and Marketing Director of the Pittsburgh MomCon helps her stay sane in the world of motherhood.