Today is my 35th birthday.
I am looking back, because this is the time that I transition from my early thirties to my mid-thirites.
35 years old felt ancient when you were 16 or even 21, right?
I am blessed to have the lived the life I have so far.
It’s celebrating the little moments, and living in the moment as much as possible. I have to teach myself that over and over sometimes.
I am always learning, we all are.
So, I thought I would share 35 things that I have learned in my 35 years of life thus far. ( not in any particular order, just random thoughts)
1. Accept your flaws, and work around them. We all have them, but how we use them is where you really shine.
2. Make someone else smile everyday. You’ll smile too, I promise.
3. Don’t wait to start living your life. If there is something you want to do, do it. We will never be this young again, and if you wait till “a better time” you will never do it.
4. Be yourself. Be the most authentic you can be.
5. Show up everyday. Show up for life, for your kids, but most importantly for yourself.
6. Drink at least one great cup of coffee or tea a day. It makes the day so much more tolerable.
7. Learn as much as you can from your grandparents. They have a lot of knowledge about how simple life can be.
8. Take girls trips. I don’t care if it is to a local hotel for the weekend, take them, and enjoy. You deserve it.
9. Ask for help when you need it. Sometimes we are afraid to ask because we think that makes us look weak, but it doesn’t.
10. Surround yourself with people that lift you up.
12. Sometimes, life starts in one direction, takes lots and lots of curves and sharp turns. Eventually, you end up on a another road completely different from where you started. And sometimes, that’s ok.
13. Build a community. Believe me, it will make your life richer than you could ever imagine.
14. You will never be fully prepared for motherhood.
15. Choose chocolate. Always choose chocolate.
16. Choose Gratitude. It’s much better than the latter.
17. Love your family more than anything. They are all you have.
18. Learn to let go. I have to work on this everyday. It’s a toughie.
19. Childhood friends, not matter where you are in life, will still be the ones to call you out on your flaws, and tell you like it is. Cherish that.
20. Cherish your tiny humans everyday. I know this sounds crazy, but time does fly.
21. Always dress your best. My mom has always taught me that. When you dress up, you feel better. Yes, I sometimes put heels on just to go to the grocery store.
22. Accept that life somehow goes on after a loss in your life. Death, divorce, break-up. Whatever loss it is, accept it sooner than later. Later, means you have missed what other things life was trying to bring you.
23. You don’t have to always like it, but you have to work at things. You have to be willing to not give up, and push through the hard times that come in life.
24. If you can, make sure your mom is your best friend.
25. Everything looks better with a little bit of burlap on it.
26. Read books and magazines, daily.
27. Stop trying to please everyone. It never works, and someone always gets hurt anyway.
28. Join a sorority or fraternity in college. Best thing I ever did.
29. Make time for friends. I don’t care if you go to the grocery store together, make time for each other, we all need friends, don’t lose them because your life is to busy.
30. Always overpack.
31. Credit cards suck the life out of you.
32. Always be creating something. Creating a new life, a DIY project, etc. Always create.
33. God does have a plan for you, I promise. You just have listen and learn, and it will all come together they way it should.
34. You have to be happy and love yourself fully, before you can truly love anyone else.
35. Lastly, pay it forward. I promise, your life will be filled with more blessings that you could ever imagine.
Tell me what lessons you would add to my list. What things have you learned in your life?
Thank you again for being such great peeps to me, and going through this crazy journey with me!
Author: Nicole Mildren
Nicole Mildren is the author of Champagne To Crayons, first time mom, and celebrates motherhood in the best way she knows how; by remembering she is just not a mom. Owning her own business, and Marketing Director of the Pittsburgh MomCon helps her stay sane in the world of motherhood.